welcome to life

If people looked at the stars each night, I'm sure they live a lot differently.
There's more to life than what we do all day

I've come to conclude that couples will be a lot more happier if they can be happy as singles. I mean, it has always been an age-old advice but I never see for myself what it really means. Not that I'm in any superior position to judge or give 'crappy that I hope has some truth' advice like this. Looking at my life... *shakes head* kidding (:

However I've witnessed for myself over time that the happiest-looking couple are those who can live not needing to talk/meet up often and still stay in each other lives, while the one with the most problems are those who hold each other back from life too much. That's from witnessing others combine with experience combine with talking to peers and older people - mainly in response to all that is going around me and what I've learnt.

Like I said, I'm not in the best position to say such things since I almost forget about these hard truths myself. However when you actually remembers such stuff, its like, "chill ~ life's still great. there's worse shit out there." haha.

So with all due respect to people living with idealistic notion of love and all things sweet and rosy, relax please. Take a step back and think what's truly important? If the person is important to you, let go so that all of you can be the best that you are capable of. If you are not happy alone, you won't be happy still anyway. Marriage isn't the goal I feel, finishing your life is. Having someone, marrying, these are just those things that society expects, to express certain things, that God gave us; like a gift to make life better but it is not life. So chill, what's the point of thinking too far into the future. Take it seriously of course, but don't even think of crossing path with someone's life if you can't even take care of yourself along the way.

Also, there's no such thing as 'The One' unless you expects your significant other to come down from Heaven in all full glory while the silver cloud parts and light shines all around you, and be the perfect prince/princess in your life. Jesus is not for you to date yo.
but, sometimes all these things are really easy to forget. That's why I feel, realistic people with enough optimism to be encouraging, pessimistic enough to be grounded and not air-headed, are such blessings to my life.

with such a post, I guess Cindy's really back. :D Of course, I'm still me and the one I care for, continues to be the one I care for. sincerity doesn't change easily if it is genuine. true story.